Wednesday, January 12, 2011

In Mourning

I have sad, sad news.   So sad, in fact, that it has taken me a month to muster up the strength to write about it.


My book club disbanded.


Yes, you read that right. Disbanded.  After ten lovely years, it was over, just like that. It happened like this:


We were sitting at a restaurant out in the vineyards, placing orders for breakfast when Erin yelled:

"CHEF SPECIAL'S ALL AROUND!!! . . . Should we order for Karen??  Is she coming?" 

Cindy said "Not sure if she's coming.  She's out."


"Out???" The group exclaimed in unison.


"Yep, out. She just can't do it with her new schedule at work." Cindy replied. Then she added "And I'm out too because my work schedule is the same day as book club I just don't have time to read."


Silence ensued and we all stared at each other.

I think we all realized at once that we were entering a new phase of life -- the most expensive phase of life. Kids growing up, leaving home, going on missions, going to college, and getting married.  And what that meant for most of the group was re-entering the work force -- to help pay for all those expenses. When you've been a stay at home mom for years and years, going back to work is the last thing that enters your mind. But it comes. And it comes faster than you think.  So a word of warning to you fellow SHAMs out there . . .  be prepared, and learn a skill or two, you may need them some day.


Minutes later, our waiter brought out The Chef's Special.  It looked just like cat food which was not a good sign.   We all pushed it around with our forks.  Just then, Karen showed up and confirmed the rumor which was true.  She was "out."  

Bobette said "Ok, let's have our annual Christmas book club and then figure out where we go from here."  

Then we all went back to the Special, which not only looked like cat food, it tasted just like cat food too.  I lost all faith in waiter recommendations.

***

Turns out we didn't have our annual Christmas book club. Within the next few days emails started traveling back and forth:


"I'm out. I just have way too much on my plate."


"I'm out, I'm going back to school."


"I'm out, I got a new job and my schedule changes every week."


So . . . it ended.  Book club officially disbanded.  And we didn't even get to exchange our Christmas gifts.



***

I will miss you friends. I will miss reading with you, laughing with you, and eating with you.


But, I'm hoping that I can convince you to come to a "Once or Twice a Year Book Club" so that we can read the latest book by Kate Morton, and maybe  Louisa May Alcott, both of which I hear are great reads. Mull it over and get back to me, will you?  

Post Script: It's way more fun reading if you have someone to talk about the book with, wouldn't you agree??

10 comments:

Jenni said...

oh, how my heart is breaking with you!

i know book clubs are all about meeting and having a good time together just as much as they are about reading the book, but maybe it would be fun to do some kind of virtual book club?! not even sure how it could work, but could be cool?!

1.2.3.4.5 said...

I've always wanted to be in a book club. If only we could do virtual book clubs... hummm

Joy said...

I just came across a book club going on at a blog. I am planning on joining in. I love books and love talking about them! Anyhow, here is the link!

http://thebigmamablog.com/8581/everyone-in-the-audience-is-getting-a-post-about-our-book-club/#comment-78715

Kristi said...

oh Crystal, that is very sad news indeed. the book we are reading this month I cannot recommend to anyone ( it has some very smutty parts)- I think the girl who picked it forgot about those. yikes. book club will be interesting in February!

Mormishmom said...

Oh, that's so sad! What about just a GNO until everyone can read again so you keep together.

Cabby Crafter said...

Oh, poor little thing.
There our times when our cohesive group ends up being in different seasons of life. Cheer up.
Keep on reading and sharing it in your blog - i love reading your blog by the way ☺

Elisabeth said...

Crystal- A friend just sent me a link to your blog asking if I know you- because I'm a Beutler too! Maybe we are related somehow. My husband is from Phoenix, but we live in MA now. Anyway, fun to "meet" a new relative :)
Take care,

Elisabeth

janna said...

so sad! I love my book club! The girl that started our book club decided it was time to end it, it didn't work out so well though. We kept it going without her! We miss her but love, love, love getting together!

I just Kate Morton's new book and I can't wait to get it!

Anyway, I am mourning with you!

Doug and Kristen said...

Well maybe our casual night time book group could provide some solace for you :) It's always so much more fun when you come! There are some good ones we're reading this year that I'm excited about.

Bethany @ Organic Enchilada said...

So sad. But keep the recommendations coming my way because I love a good book. Have you read The Help? I have not and am wondering if it's as good as everyone says.