Monday, May 9, 2011

I am Not Mary Poppins

Sometimes, it seems like there are people out in blogland who have the perfect body, the perfect spouse, the perfect children,  the perfect house, the perfect life.  We wish we had it so good.


Someone once thought that about me.  They actually said "You and your perfect little life, you have no idea what it's like to have it hard."


I wanted to scream "If you only knew.  You have no idea where I've been, or what's going on in my life."  But I didn't.  The comment taught me something instead.  I need to be careful when it comes to making judgments about other people.  We only see the surface, we do not know the heart.


That incident was over 20 years ago.  Though it may appear my life is perfect, it's not.  It's a good life though, and I am thankful for it.  I choose to love the life I have, not the life I wish I had.


I choose not to make my entire life public.  There is such a thing as too much information.  Instead, I choose to write about things that uplift, that make me laugh, or ponder, or fill my soul with joy.  


But let me be clear:  I yell on occassion, and have a hard time staying organized.  I have french fries stuffed under my sofa cushions, a dog that will not stop barking,  great kids who sometimes make dumb choices, and a handyman husband who leaves tools all over the house.   We have had our share of really big problems, just like everyone else.  I could tell you stories that would bring you to tears.   But I won't.   It would hurt people I care about, including those who have passed on.  And it would put a burden on you that you may not have the ability to carry.


There's only one person who knows us, and sees all that we are.  He knows our weaknesses and our strengths.  He knows our pain and our joy.  He is the person I tell my troubles to.


He makes up the difference for what I lack.  And through His mercy, I can be perfect . . . someday.


But for now, I am flawed,  just like everyone else.  So when you read my words, know that I am not Mary Poppins. 


 But I do wish that I had a cool umbrella with a Parrott handle. 

13 comments:

Meagan at Fairly Fabulous Blog dot com said...

So I'm not the only one who thinks everyone in blogland has a perfect life! ;) Thanks for the reminder post. PS I have a Mr Potato Head umbrella with a parrot. Thank you, Disney World.

Eve said...

I forget that people do the same thing I do - intentionally blog positively and leave out the harder stuff, in an effort to remember the good stuff. I need that reminder every once in awhile.

Genevieve said...

It's amazing what we think we know vs. the bare bones truth isn't it?

Emily said...

So true I don't share my whole life with people and I think a lot of people probably think I'm this happy person all the time. Gee you really should come spend a day with me. My children would tell you different. Thanks for the reality check! I'm not Mary Poppins either!

AMCutler said...

Beautiful post. I'm fine with the rose colored glasses I see my world through and I want everyone to have a pair. I used to have the boys make scrapbooks every summer when they were here. The whole point was that you always take photos of the fun times and hopefully their memories would be filled with happy times, not this new stepmother who had invaded their lifes and made them clean house!

tomiannie said...

This is so very true. And it's hard to find a balance, because when you choose to focus on the positive, people accuse you of being in denial or being fake. I have a whole blog dedicated to not being perfect, but being happy and positive about life. It's definitely a work in progress...

(It's beingperfectlyhonest.blogspot.com, if you'd ever like to check it out.)

Bethany @ Organic Enchilada said...

...or a mirror that would harmonize with you...

Honour said...

Very encouraging read -- especially what I needed.
Thanks.

(and I want the M.Poppins ability to clean a room with nods and singing. I spent over an hour scrubbing my bathroom today... Yuck!)

Sharon said...

Thank you. Always a good message to hear. I too have realized that no one knows what's going on behind the facade! I hope I have learned to judge a little less and love a little more. I think when we blog we only want to put the good stuff out there! Who wants to blog about the big fight you just had with your husband, and how then you yelled at your kids cause you were angry, and how you have 2 loads of dishes in the sink, and your kids are wearing yesterdays socks and to top it off, you just ate a whole bag of left over Easter candy! (None of that of course has EVER happened at our house! :)

Jenni said...

this post is so true, so, so true.

i am not sure if you have ever seen the show on mtv called "if you really knew me", but it hits you in the gut. i always try to look at my everyone differently, because often times we think we know what their life is like, when really we have no idea.

Cinnamon*Sticks Boutique said...

Crystal, it was such a joy getting to chat with you at QBM.
The girls LOVE their aprons, when I have a free moment I'll snap photos for you.
Any time you want to have a Metal- working day give me a call :)
Canela
PS the French toast was a hit!

The Harrison Crew said...

I'm a little late in reading this...and needed it this morning. Thank you so much...

Rachel said...

I totally agree, blogs are what people want to share, so if it seems like they have a perfect life, there could be something else happening we don't see! Everyone has their struggles and trials, we are all the same :) Love ya!