Monday, April 9, 2012


Watching this video made me cry.
Not just cry, sob.
Such a sensitive subject in Mormon culture,
but one that needs to be talked about a lot more.
So I'm talking, because I want you to know . . .
I love the Savior, and His gospel.
I love my friends and family members who are gay too,
and accept who they are.
They will always have a friend in me.
We may not agree on political or religious matters,
but we've managed to put our differences aside.

I believe it's possible to do both -- love the gospel, and love people who are different from me.
The Savior does -- he loves each of us, and knows our hearts.

If I want to become like Him,
I need to be a little better at looking at people through His eyes . . .
with understanding,
and less judgement.

I hope that people will look at me that way too.
Because I have beliefs that not everyone agrees with.
I've made choices I'm not proud of.
And I have flaws . . . lots of flaws.

I hope you will take the time to watch and share this.
The message is important.
It may just save a life, or change a heart.

I applaude these BYU students
for stepping forward and doing something hard.
You are brave,
and you are making a difference.

For those of you who are interested, this link gives the story about the video:



Bethany said...

I love that you posted this. My cousin is a student at BYU and just came out to the public, (his parents have known for a couple of years), about two weeks ago. This family event has created a lot of discussion between my husband and I, and lot of debate, and lot of questions... But what it all boils down to is simple. Our job is to love everyone as our Savior would. Not judge them, not "fix" them, not figure it all out. Just love them. Thanks for posting this!

Nanette said...

I plan to share this. Its wonderful, thank you! These wonderful people are inspiring!

Crissa Pollmann Robertson said...

This video has really made me think about how I treat others...not just gays. Am I being as Christlike as I can? How can I be better?

I know a lot of people who are gay and I know a lot of gay LDS members. One thing I still struggle with though is, why do gays, LDS or not, feel like they have to be SO vocal about being gay? I mean, we don't have straight pride parades, race specific bars, etc. In fact if those did exist that group would be considered racist or prejudiced. Why do gays feel like they need to be SO vocal about their sexuality? I would love someone to help me understand. I love to learn about and understand different view points, religions, and lifestyles.

crystal b. said...

Crissa -- Maybe it's because they just want to be accepted for who they are. Maybe they are trying to fight for a group that hasn't been accepted much in society, and to help people know they don't have to hide who they are as a person. I really have no idea -- that's just my assumption.

Thanks for commenting!

Danielle said...


Thanks so much for posting that. I loved it and cried a little too. I have shared it as well.

I love the expression 'straight-allies', we need more of them in our church.

Well done on putting it out there. You're awesome. xo

crystal b. said...

This comment is from Naomi --

Hey Crystal,
I'm a long-time reader of your blog, not commented in ages, but I tried to comment this evening on your post about the It Gets Better video. Unfortunately it won't let me upload my comment, there are problems with the 'recaptcha' thing (I have tried about ten times and keep getting it wrong!).

Anyway, I just had a quick response for Crissa who asked a question in the comments, I was wondering if you could maybe pass it on to her, and tell her I'd love to talk to her any time about it. Here's what I wrote:

"Hi Crissa - just a quick response to your question. Gay people are often criticised for being so 'vocal' about their sexuality, but heterosexual people don't seem to face this.

Gay Pride events and marches were set up to give gay people a voice and allow them to have a political stance, to say to the world "we are equal citizens and we deserve the same rights". Straight people have never needed to do this. Heterosexual people are represented in every aspect of life: they know they can walk hand in hand with their partner in public and not face negativity, they don't have to worry about 'coming out' to their families about their sexual orientation, etc etc (the list goes on). I hope this helps a little :)"

And can I just say thanks for posting that video. I am a gay Christian, and most often I face less than positive responses from the church on this issue. Because of this, I am not 'out' on my blog, but one day I hope to be completely myself, online and in reality. Your post gives me hope, so thank you.

Many thanks,